SUBTITLE: Developing The Masculine Identity
Our quest to level the playing field between boys and girls has lead to a lopsidedness that leaves many boys feeling confused. God created man and woman as separate but equal. When we try to feminize boys or masculinize women, we discredit God’s original design. This book describes the importance of pushing boys toward risk and adventure; qualities that lead to genuine self esteem. There are no short cuts to personal growth or manhood. The book argues that every boy needs to face himself, to face some dreaded test. Some men go through most of their lives avoiding the test but they never become the men they want to be, or the men God wants them to be, unless they meet it head-on.
The opening sections describe what boys need most if they are to become the men that God can use. It includes anecdotes, stories, interviews, and studies to bolster the thesis that men desperately want to a blueprint for their masculine journey. It tells men how to prepare their sons to face their tests and explains why it is so important that well-meaning women encourage the growth into manhood instead of thwart it.
As our postmodern culture seeks to redefine Biblical morality, relationships have taken a serious hit, even within the Church. How does this affect men? From boyhood, to the teenage years, and on through mid-life and retirement, the book describes what men in each of these stages of life are dealing with—the challenges they face. In some instances, men feel they cannot measure up to the expectations placed on them at work, in their marriage or in their spiritual life. Fortunately there are answers and these come together in the final section, “Reclaiming Masculinity.”
Sample chapter titles:
Seeking Adventure: A Rite of Passage
Letting Boys Be Boys: Developing the Masculine Identity
Little Boy be Good: Social Pressures to Tame Boys
Caught in the Crossfire: Teenage Boys Who Won’t Grow Up
Finding Family: The Search to Belong
Mid-Age Madness: The Last
The Golden Boys: Is that All There Is?
How the Women’s Movement Failed Men and Women
The Myth of Sameness: Embracing the Creator’s Intent for the Sexes
Media Madness: How the Media Marginalizes Men and Fathers
What Do Men Need Most?
Relationships: Minefields of Change
Pulling It All Together